Some quick life updates:

  • In December, I moved to Cambridge, Massachusetts, to focus more seriously on some chronic health issues. I love Mexico City, but navigating health care en español wasn’t ideal.
  • I’m still running Focusmate. We hired our 10th team member — our first growth hire — to help us deepen our reach in the ADHD community, where Focusmate has had the strongest impact and clearest product-market fit. I’m almost 10 years into this journey and still fired up about what’s coming, and I’m grateful for that.
  • I am newly obsessed with pickleball and playing as much as I can handle :)

Some interesting tidbits from my world lately:

#1: "Attention = no tension"

  • I love how this phrase conceptualizes paying attention as a physical experience of relaxation. For example, when I’m listening to someone but thinking about my response, I can feel that as tension in my neck, face, etc.
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    Related to this, if I notice tension in my body, I use that a potential sign to not say what I’m considering saying.

#2: Money mindset

  • In my younger years, some serious "wealth is bad" conditioning unconsciously drove my life choices in the direction of poverty. Two new narratives helped up-end that: First is that money can facilitate ease in life, so not having enough sabotages your ability to share your gifts with the world. Poor = selfish (?!)
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    Second is that wealth can mean stewarding resources that aren’t yours per se, but which you can put to work in service of others or your purpose.
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    Together these helped me stop martyring around money and get excited about welcoming wealth in my life.

#3: Sustainable > Ideal

  • When I was considering this newsletter, my brilliant friend Blake Smith asked me: What topics can I easily write about? And what frequency can I easily maintain?
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    I used to set goals based on what seemed ideal, which often led to failure. I’m loving the context of setting goals based on what I can easily sustain, rather than what seems ideal.